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Anne,

I know you don't get it, but when you start saying those things, it does actually hurt my feelings. The tone of your voice is a mix of disgust, disapproval, and pent-up anger. And I know that you think it is all in good fun, but each time you just end up making me feel bad about myself and who I am. I know I have changed alot since you knew me, and I know that I have friends that are different from what you are used to, but it is what it is. I feel like I am continuing to figure out who I am. I wasn't forced to be such an adult at such an early age. I was not comfortable with such a huge part of me until very recently. So I am still growing and changing as a person. Maybe some of this is a phase, but maybe its me. I just hate feeling so attacked so often when I am in my own house, where I have usually felt so accepted and free to talk. You may not understand it, but that doesn't give you the right to do what so many people do in our society and ridicule it. If it is something that you don't think you can handle, if you feel like you need to say these things, then we need to talk. Because lately I have felt like I am not really wanted around you. I don't ever intentionally say anything like this to you, and I don't know why you feel the need. This probably sounds like I am taking it to personally, but every time I have asked you to stop you just continue and I don't know what else to do. So here it is. Maybe we can figure this out.

Dan